Machinations of the word "LOVE"

EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.
In fact, it was acompletely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DOanything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."
.......
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone callsbecome a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts....
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marrythe right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience withsomeone else.

This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame theirspouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage forfulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity isthe most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, afriendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience... You have to "make" it day in and day out.

That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." - Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Destiny decides who you meet in life.
But it's your heart that decides who gets to stay in your life.